{"id":3522,"date":"2024-01-17T12:42:49","date_gmt":"2024-01-17T09:42:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/demo.garsoft.com.tr\/hidoctor\/?p=3522"},"modified":"2024-01-17T12:42:49","modified_gmt":"2024-01-17T09:42:49","slug":"nezaket-kurallari-evrensel-midir-toplumsal-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/nezaket-kurallari-evrensel-midir-toplumsal-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"Nezaket Kurallar\u0131 Evrensel Midir, Toplumsal M\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nezaketin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayat\u0131n bir\u00e7ok alan\u0131nda bize kap\u0131lar a\u00e7abilir ya da tam tersi yoklu\u011fu bir\u00e7ok kap\u0131y\u0131 kapatabilir. Toplumdan topluma nezaket ve davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6rnekleri de\u011fi\u015fim g\u00f6sterir.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin, ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz y\u0131llarda bir Frans\u0131z garson, \u201cagresif tonu\u201d nedeniyle Kanada\u2019da \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir\u00a0 restauranttan kovulmu\u015ftu. Garson, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n tamamen yeti\u015fti\u011fi Frans\u0131z k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 savundu. Kanadal\u0131 i\u015fyeri sahibi ise garsonun tavr\u0131n\u0131n\u00a0\u201cnezaket kurallar\u0131na ayk\u0131r\u0131\u201d oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyerek hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dile getirdi.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Her iki \u00fclkede de b\u00fcy\u00fck tart\u0131\u015fmalara yol a\u00e7an ve hatta \u201cFrans\u0131z oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in kovuldu\u201d man\u015fetiyle gazetelere ta\u015f\u0131nan bu olay<\/a> iki yeni soruyu g\u00fcndeme ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131: Nezaket evrensel bir kavram m\u0131d\u0131r? Neyin kabul edilebilir davran\u0131\u015f olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair fikrimiz yeti\u015fti\u011fimiz k\u00fclt\u00fcre g\u00f6re farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterir mi?<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Yaz\u0131n\u0131n devam\u0131nda, bu iki sorunun cevab\u0131n\u0131 mercek alt\u0131na alal\u0131m!<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Nezaket Kurallar\u0131 Neden Toplumsal Olabilir?<\/h2 id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Sosyal ve \u00f6rg\u00fctsel normlar\u0131 ihlal eden ve ikili ili\u015fkilerde anla\u015fmazl\u0131klara yol a\u00e7an davran\u0131\u015flar nezaketsizlik olarak nitelendirilebilir. Bu kurallar, hangi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kabul edilebilir olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerimizi i\u00e7erir. \u00d6rne\u011fin, bir\u00e7ok k\u00fclt\u00fcrde insanlar yeme\u011fi \u00e7atal b\u0131\u00e7ak kullanmadan yemenin g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fck oldu\u011funu savunur.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Nezaket kurallar\u0131 s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funluk bunlar\u0131 uygulanabilir kurallar olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan basit g\u00f6r\u00fcnen oysa derinde \u00e7ok daha karma\u015f\u0131k temellere sahip nezaket kurallar\u0131, baz\u0131 zamanlar \u00f6rt\u00fck olma niteli\u011fi ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Bu nitelik de yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalara neden olur ve nezaket kurallar\u0131na ili\u015fkin farkl\u0131 bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 do\u011furur. Bir toplumun kabul edilebilir bir davran\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc \u015fey, farkl\u0131 bir toplum taraf\u0131ndan kaba veya nezaketsizlik olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin, kalabal\u0131k bir ortamda burun temizlemek \u00e7o\u011fu toplumda nezaketsizlik say\u0131l\u0131rken Alman halk\u0131 i\u00e7in bu kabul edilebilir bir durumdur.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Farkl\u0131 K\u00fclt\u00fcrler Farkl\u0131 Kurallar\u0131 Do\u011furur<\/h2 id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

K\u00fclt\u00fcrler \u00fczerine \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma y\u00fcr\u00fcten baz\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131rmac\u0131lar<\/a>, farkl\u0131 dillerde nezaket \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fc olarak \u201cdo\u011frudan iletme\u201d g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcn olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini ifade eder. \u00d6rne\u011fin, Japon halk\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 tarafla ileti\u015fim kurmak i\u00e7in dolayl\u0131 c\u00fcmleleri tercih etmektedir. G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek istedikleri ki\u015fiye \u201cseni k\u0131sa s\u00fcre i\u00e7in rahats\u0131z edebilir miyim?\u201d \u015feklinde soru y\u00f6neltmektedir.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Japonlar\u0131n y\u00f6neltti\u011fi soruya bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u201crahats\u0131z etme\u201d kelimeleri kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda bile rahats\u0131z hissedebilirsiniz. Oysa bu, onlar i\u00e7in davran\u0131\u015ftan \u00f6nce \u00f6z\u00fcr dileme anlam\u0131na gelmektedir. Ayn\u0131 \u00f6rne\u011fe Alman halk\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ise k\u0131sa ve net olma hususuna vurgu yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebiliriz: \u201cSeninle konu\u015fmam gerekiyor\u201d.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

\u0130lk bak\u0131\u015fta, Japonca konu\u015fanlar\u0131n daha nazik ve kibar bir konu\u015fma stilini benimsediklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz. Ancak birbirinden ayr\u0131 dillerin kal\u0131plar\u0131nda yer alan bu farklar, yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalara ve k\u0131r\u0131lmalara yol a\u00e7abilir.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Nezaket Kurallar\u0131 Evrensel Midir?<\/h2 id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

\u0130nsanlar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131 nezaket kurallar\u0131n\u0131n toplumsal oldu\u011funu savunurken, di\u011fer k\u0131sm\u0131 bu normlar\u0131n evrensel olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini savunmaktad\u0131r. Onlara g\u00f6re, bir insan\u0131n nazik ve \u015fefkatli olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 dili konu\u015fmalar\u0131na ve ayn\u0131 havay\u0131 solumalar\u0131na gerek yoktur. Evrenselli\u011fi savunanlara g\u00f6re \u00f6nemli olan, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n neresinde olursa olsun b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlara ayn\u0131 sayg\u0131y\u0131 ve g\u00fcler y\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6sterme becerisine sahip olmakt\u0131r.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Bu a\u00e7\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ve bir\u00e7ok toplum taraf\u0131ndan kabul edilen nezaket kurallar\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, nezaketin b\u00fct\u00fcn insanl\u0131\u011fa hitap eden bir kavram oldu\u011funu savunabiliriz.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

D\u00fcnyaca \u00fcnl\u00fc yazar Mark Twain, bu konuyla ilgili \u201cNezaket, sa\u011f\u0131r insanlar\u0131n duyabilece\u011fi ve k\u00f6rlerin g\u00f6rebilece\u011fi bir dildir.\u201d demi\u015ftir. Belki de nezaket, ger\u00e7ekten de d\u00fcnyan\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00fclkelerinde birbirinden habersiz ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131 devam ettiren insanlar i\u00e7in ortak dildir.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Sonu\u00e7 Olarak: Nezaket Toplumsal M\u0131d\u0131r, Evrensel Midir?<\/h2 id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n

Konuyla ilgili net ve kesin bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc savunmak do\u011fru de\u011fildir. Her g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f kendi i\u00e7erisinde hakl\u0131d\u0131r ve her g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f di\u011ferine g\u00f6re ayk\u0131r\u0131l\u0131klar bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. K\u00fclt\u00fcrel farkl\u0131l\u0131klara ra\u011fmen g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde internet ve sosyal medya kullan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n t\u00fcm d\u00fcnyada yayg\u0131nla\u015fmas\u0131, bu k\u00fclt\u00fcrlere ait nezaket kurallar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0131zl\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fimine ve birbirlerine benzemelerine de zemin haz\u0131rlamaktad\u0131r. Fakat, hangi g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fe yak\u0131n olursak olal\u0131m, hat\u0131rlamam\u0131z gereken; sevgi ve ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar i\u00e7in ortak dil oldu\u011fu.<\/p id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\" id=\"\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nezaketin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayat\u0131n bir\u00e7ok alan\u0131nda bize kap\u0131lar a\u00e7abilir ya da tam tersi yoklu\u011fu bir\u00e7ok kap\u0131y\u0131 kapatabilir. Toplumdan topluma nezaket ve davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6rnekleri de\u011fi\u015fim g\u00f6sterir. \u00d6rne\u011fin, ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz y\u0131llarda bir Frans\u0131z garson, \u201cagresif tonu\u201d nedeniyle Kanada\u2019da \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir\u00a0 restauranttan kovulmu\u015ftu. Garson, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n tamamen yeti\u015fti\u011fi Frans\u0131z k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 savundu. Kanadal\u0131 i\u015fyeri sahibi ise garsonun tavr\u0131n\u0131n\u00a0\u201cnezaket kurallar\u0131na ayk\u0131r\u0131\u201d oldu\u011funu […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3523,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-iyi-hisset"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3522","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3522"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3522\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3523"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3522"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3522"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hidoctor.health\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3522"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}